OK so I am working on a sex scene. I have been reading post after post on what makes a good sex scene. So far the consensus is that I should not say penis, which makes me sad. I think the word penis is a sexy word, but it seems everyone else thinks it is too clinical or will make people giggle. On the other hand they were discouraging me to use something called "Purple Prose" which included examples such as: wand of love and dewy folds. These things I do not find sexy anyway so luckily I could easily avoid the purple prose kind of thing. There were lots of other things that had some agreement, but none so overwhelming as do not say penis. So where does that leave me? Cock, dick or wiener? Alright wiener just made me laugh out loud so I guess that one is out, too. Someone suggested just saying me because everyone will know what you mean anyway.
For example: She licked her hands and grabbed my penis.
Versus: She licked her hands and grabbed me.
I guess they are right, that does sound more alluring than the penis example.
good piece of advice they gave me was to make sure you don't ignore the
emotional for the carnal. That sex is an emotional experience as well
as a physical one. This we already know, but it is a good reminder to
make sure we are using both sides to engage the reader.
piece of advice that surprised me, but makes sense is that sex should be
used to develop a character or reveal something that we didn't know.
This never occurred to me. I was just going to use sex because it is fun
to have and read, but I am now trying to think about what it will
reveal about my characters. other than they like to have sex.
Do you have any good tips for making a sex scene better?